Today is my husband’s 40th birthday. He’s been a little bummed about this number for the better part of a year now. I just can’t believe that we’ve been together for so many years. He’s my best friend. There is no one I’d rather spend a free day with. There is no one I’d rather travel the world with. At the end of the day, he’s the one I want to talk to. When he’s with me, everything feels better.
We have history together. I don’t care to remember much about life before Josh came along. All of our adult life has been spent together. We have celebrated more than 20 birthdays together and almost that many anniversaries. We’ve made plans and dreamed together. We’ve become parents together. We’ve bought and sold houses, started and quit jobs, gotten lost and found ourselves again, laughed and cried together. We share our past. Occasionally when I look at a newly wed couple and think how sweet it would be to be falling in love all over again- I stop myself and think of all that history that we would lose if we started over again. I remind myself that I would never really want to go back and do it again- it’s too much work to recreate what we have. I don’t envy those just starting out. Our relationship just keeps getting richer and deeper and more fulfilling as the years roll by.
We also have chemistry with each other. I remember one time when I was talking with my girlfriends about our husbands. I said, “I love that Josh can still give me butterflies in my stomach with just one look across a crowded room.” I wasn’t being sappy or gushy, I was just making a comment that we hadn’t lost that spark. I was shocked and sad when several of my girlfriends commented that their spouses had NEVER given them butterflies in their stomaches. I thought, ”Wow, we really have something special then.” I quit taking that for granted and now I know that we have a rare thing. We can read each other’s moods without saying anything. We know each other better than anyone else knows us. We are one.
It’s pretty stereotypical to say that men struggle with turing 40- I’ve known many women who struggle with that number too. But I want my husband to know that in my eyes, he’s never been more handsome than he is right now. In my heart, I’ve never loved him more than I do at this moment. I love that we are growing older together and we still want to be together. I don’t take that for granted. I know that is the stuff that dreams are made of.
So happy 40th birthday to the love of my life and my best friend. Our adventure is just getting exciting! I love you, Babe!