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Birthday Girl

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Emma and her friends

This is my Emma (in black) and her friends.  Today she turns 12.  She is the reason I never went back to home schooling after language school.  She is such a social butterfly that it would kill her to stay home day after day.  She absolutely loves school, everything about it.  The Lord has given Emma a large circle of missionary friends here in CR.

Right around this age girls normally divide into two camps, the little girls and the big girls.  The little girls still play with their dolls, still draw and write, still say they love their teachers.  The big girls are moving more towards the teen years.  They bop around with ear buds plugging music into their heads.  They stare vacantly at their texting device of choice.  And they spend longer and longer amounts of time preening in the mirror before they go anywhere.

Maybe because she’s a middle child, Emma is successfully straddling both worlds.  She’s making her metamorphosis gradually, and I’m happy about that.  (I’m not ready to pack up the dolls yet.)  She had a “Cup Cake Wars” themed birthday party.  At the party, we gave her make up for the first time.  All the girls ran screaming and squealing up stairs to give each other make overs.  They came back down all sparkly and jazzed up, ready to curl up with their pillow pets and watch “Little Women”.

Happy Birthday to my Emma Daisy, my very own American Girl Dolly.  I hope you love your new iPod.  ❤

Watching Family Movies

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Shirley TempleLast year we asked our family to send our giant, unorganized box of hours of unedited family videos to a professional to have them put on DVD for us.  We told them, don’t worry about cute menus or putting them in order, we just want them in a form that we can watch.  No one has a VHS player anymore and even fewer no ones have an adapter for the mini cassettes that we used for years.  We hadn’t seen our kids’ baby videos for literally years!  We had forgotten about all the birthday parties and lost teeth and bedroom Karaoke performances.

So at Christmas time we received a large stack of burned DVDs labeled by year.  I was thrilled!  My daughters have been watching hours and hours of themselves as babies, memorizing every cute facial expression and infant squeal that they made.  It makes me wish I had video of myself as a toddler.

So last night we sat down as a family and watched a hour or so of random cuteness.  It made me realize two things:  Number one, my children really ARE as adorable as I think they are.  It was not a figment of my maternal bias to believe they were stinking cute.  And Number two:  I really DO have justification for being exhausted.  Just watching those videos made me tired all over again.  If it weren’t for having a cam-corder I wouldn’t remember hardly anything from those years of sleepless nights and multi-tasking days.  No wonder I’ve been tired for the last 16 years.

I am not yet to the stage where I am pining away for my babies.  I don’t know if I’ll ever be that kind of mother since I’m actually looking forward to the empty nest phase (don’t call me cruel).  For 16 years, I have dedicated myself, body and soul, to raising my kids well.  I am proud of the progress we are making, and I celebrate their milestones as they grow towards independence.  I know I’m going to enjoy them as adults too.  There is a season for everything:  a time to grow, a time to harvest; a time to shelter, a time to release into the world.  These are happy thoughts for me.  As one season ends, another begins.

Ecclesiastes 3

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

Photo credit: Walter Lang, director; 20th Century Fox film. Screenshot by 808Starfire. / <a href=”http://foter.com”>Foter.com</a&gt; / <a href=”http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/public_domain”>Public domain</a>

My Boy is turning 16

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When I look at old pictures of my first born, I think of the first 5 years of his life.  When I found out that I was pregnant with a boy, I got a little scared.  I didn’t know much about boys.  We only had girls in my family.  So I started talking to other moms of boys and asked, “What’s it like to be the mother of a boy?”  Turns out, it’s great!  Taylor was my little buddy, spending all day every day tagging along with me.  He was my only child for 5 years.

Around age 3 he jumped ship and wanted to spend as much time with his Dad as possible.  One day I was standing in the kitchen making dinner while my husband was down in the basement working on the furnace.  Taylor bolted behind me carrying his little plastic tool box.  “What are you doing, Taylor?”  I asked as he headed towards the basement door.

In the most excited tone of voice he announced, “I’m gettin’ mad with my dad!”  And then I knew what was going on downstairs.  I heard big, manly-tool clunks and little, plastic tool tinks and I knew that Taylor was imitating Josh blow for blow with his little plastic hammer.  He was also imitating more than the motions, he was learning how to be a man.  How to be responsible.  How to be a provider.  How to try his hardest and do his best.  How to be self controlled.  How to be strong.  How to love God and his family too.

Model Train Day at Augustana Senior Housing with Auntie.

When Taylor was around Kindergarten age, my sister was working at a Senior Housing Facility.  In the evenings she taught ceramics classes.  One night a week, Taylor and I would go to ceramics with the old people.  They just adored him!  (I’ve always called Taylor an “Old Lady Magnet” because as a baby he would make flirty faces at the Grandmas in the grocery store.)  At ceramics class he would sit perched on a stool and would paint away on his projects while the old folks asked him questions and chatted with him.  One guy road a Segway around the campus.  Taylor was so impressed with that.  So one time the man let Taylor stand with him and they road down the hall together.  Taylor still talks about that!  When we moved away, the ceramics class all signed a special plate that they painted for him.  He still has that.

Driving Grandpa’s gator

Taylor has always been fascinated by anything transportation related.  Since the age of 3 when he learned that you have to be 16 in order to drive a car, Taylor has been counting down the years.  He went through a long Thomas the Tank Engine phase (which I absolutely loved!).  He collected Hot Wheels cars and spent hours lining them up in rows like a parking lot.  He learned to drive “the gator,” which is like a golf cart for lawn work, at his Grandparents’ cabin.  He has begged to drive anything since he could talk!  And now the time has come.  He’s going home to Minnesota in a few weeks to take Drivers’ Ed and get his permit.  He’s finally going to drive… legally.

I’m really proud of Taylor.  I like the person he’s becoming.  I’m proud that he’s MY boy… OUR boy.  He’s been a wonderful kid and he’s turning into an amazing young man.  Everyone who knows him feels that he’s a uniquely sensitive kid with a kind heart and a mature thoughtfulness about him.  I have had so many of his teachers stop me in the hall at school to tell me how much they enjoy having Taylor in their class.  He makes an impression.  He’s a godly young man.

Happy 16th birthday Boy!  We love you and are so excited for the independence you are growing into.  The future looks wide open for you!  Spread your wings and fly!