After having 3 straight weeks of hosting teams and not seeing my husband night after night, we have a date night this week. We are going to the movies, and I don’t even care which one we are seeing. I just want to talk. I might “need” a coffee afterwards if I haven’t spent all my words yet.
I’m a pretty typical woman. I’m wired for words. I write in my blog AND a private journal AND a prayer journal AND I keep a notebook of quotes I like. On top of all that, I fill up with words by reading a lot. I don’t talk as much as most women, but I definitely talk more than my husband. When he’s not around much, I’m overrun by children in my life (both my own and my school kids) who all talk my ear off while my own words just bottle up inside. The pressure builds.
A few of the kids in my class are super random. They will raise their hands in the middle of a math lesson and tell me that they once lost a tooth at their grandparent’s house or that they really like swimming. “OK, back to planet earth,” I think. I can tell when I’ve had too many kid conversations when I no longer have patience for these random chatty moments. I know when my eyes glaze over and I can’t even humor the child that I am in desperate need of “adult conversation.” Date night is just the thing I need.
My poor husband, he feels like he has it so hard in life. I don’t ask for much, just a well placed grunt every few sentences to show me that he’s listening. But often times even that is too much to ask. I accuse him of not listening to me, and he repeats the last sentence I said just to prove that he was listening. I say that’s not listening, that’s repeating.
I no longer ask for him to tell me what he’s thinking. I consider that an amateur question that young, inexperienced wives ask their baffled husbands. I have found that I can continue a stream of thought without his verbal prompting or participating. I only want the grunt to feel like I’m talking to a human. My standards are low, I know.
So tonight I will unload the congestion of my thought life, empty 3 weeks worth of thoughts onto my husband. Pray for him.
Well I’m not June Cleaver, but I might be able to pull this off anyhow. This is a goal to strive for and an image to grow into. This is my version of the famous Perfect Wife in Proverbs 31.
It’s hard to find the perfect wife! She is worth far more than jewels. Her husband depends on her. He will never be poor. She does good for her husband all her life. She never speaks disparagingly about him to others. She never shames him.
She is always gathering necessary supplies and enjoys making things with her hands. She’s creative and resourceful. She is like a ship from a faraway place. She brings home food from everywhere. She wakes up early in the morning, and cooks food for her family (or at least makes sure there’s cereal in the house).
She’s a working woman. She has a good head for money and business matters. She looks at land and buys it. She understands savings and investments, and is responsible with her money. She works very hard. She is strong and able to do all her work. She works late into the night to make sure her business earns a profit. She is very industrious and resourceful.
She always gives to the poor and helps those who need it. She doesn’t let fear make her stingy or self centered. She plans ahead. She does not worry about her family when winter comes. She has given them all good, warm clothes. She makes sure all the beds in her home are warm and comfortable. She’s not frumpy, but she takes care of herself and her appearance. She knows how to dress herself and her children well.
Her husband is a respected man and a leader wherever he works. She knows how to talk with business men and associates. She is a strong person, and people respect her. She looks to the future with confidence. Because of her planning, she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and teaches others to be loving and kind. People listen to what she has to say.
She oversees the care of her house, assigning chores to the children and working hard herself. She is never lazy. Her children say good things about her. Her husband brags about her and says, “There are many good women, but you are the best.” Grace and charm can fool you. Beauty is only skin deep and won’t last forever, but a woman who respects the Lord should be praised. She deserves public recognition for all that she’s done! Give her applause and honor!