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Same Old Lies


We throw a lot of blame on men for sexualizing and objectifying women.  But let’s talk about the women who do this to themselves. And the power that is motivating them.

I watched the Superbowl commercials and half time show this year (hey, that’s more than I usually watch!) and I groaned along with every other woman in the room when certain commercials with bikini clad women selling cars with gyrating sex and slithery fantasy appeared.  Every man in the room was a decent good guy and looked down or turned away when these commercials played.  I blushed.  I was ashamed for those women who no longer felt shame.

No one was holding a gun to their heads and telling them to slither around in strappy lingerie.  But someone behind the scenes was handing them a fat paycheck.  They essentially sold their bodies to the entire world.  I wonder if the paycheck felt like it was enough to replace the respect they lost.  I’m sure they felt proud of themselves for making it into a big-time Superbowl ad.  I’m sure this will give a nice boost to their carriers in the actor-slash-modeling world.  But I am a woman and I did not feel proud of them.  They boosted themselves up at the expense of all of us.  They helped dehumanize all of humankind for their own gain.

The Bible says that the prostitute turns you into a morsel of bread… to her, you are food in her belly.  She’s just earning a living, while devouring your soul.  I’m not talking about the poor women who are forced into sex slavery (I’m saving that for another post).  I’m talking about the women who do this to themselves voluntarily and what that does to us as humans, men and women.

Ever since the Garden of Eden when Eve was tricked by the serpent there has been a Spiritual war being waged against women.  Satan hates women… because only women produce Life.  As far as we know, Satan and his fallen angel minions can not reproduce.  That means there is a set number of them.  So it is a strategy of Satan to keep human population lower so he can keep control of humans.  Satan uses war, disease, famine, abortion, and violence against women to keep humans from getting too numerous to handle.

Satan is ultimately at war with God.  But he doesn’t have the power to hurt God directly.  So he goes after God’s beloved creation.  God has made humans in his own image meaning we bear certain characteristics of God like our capacity for love, goodness, and caring for others just to name a few.  Satan’s favorite tactics are doubly nasty because they attack the character of God reflected in humans.  He aims at God when he delivers the blow against us.  He tries to bring us down to a place of shame and humility because that’s what he wants to do to God.

Remember when Jesus was being tempted by Satan?  The last temptation was Satan telling Jesus, “Just bow down to me and I’ll give you the world.”  Satan wanted to put Jesus under his foot, to humiliate and humble him.  Of course, Jesus didn’t fall for that one… but the Woman did.  And women still fall for that one.  “Just take off your clothes and I’ll give you the world.  Just humble and humiliate yourself and I’ll give you everything.”  We fall for it over and over again.

So it’s easy to say these women wouldn’t do that to themselves if men weren’t buying it.  Yes, there’s enough blame to spread all around to everyone.  But the really wicked thing about Satan is that he gets us to fall for his lies and then he heaps us with guilt on top of it.  We bite the apple then he shames us for doing the very thing he tempted us to do.  We go for the thrill of cheap sex and then feel lousy about ourselves afterwards.  Satan delivers a double punch.  Sin is a win-win for the bad guys.  Only God has the power to lift us out of that sticky, messy mud hole.

When God is lifted up and honored, he lifts up and redeems all that was lost.  When God is glorified, all creation benefits.  Only God has the power to elevate humans to the place of adopted Sons of God the Father.  God is the source of all goodness and the farther away we move from him as a society, the less goodness will touch us.  By rejecting God, the source of goodness, we create a vacuum that must be filled.  And it is filled with counterfeit goodness, a cheaper product.  Those sexy girls on the TV screen look good, but the image is a flimsy fraud- a lesser goodness than what God offers.  The more our society pulls away from God, the more depraved we will become.