When I was in high school I had a boy friend that my parents really were not happy with. This kid was trouble. My parents tried a lot of different tactics to get rid of this bad influence in my life. Finally, out of desperation, they asked my youth pastor’s wife to have a chat with me.
As we sat on the couch in their family room, my pastor’s wife pointed to the breakfast bar where her daughter sat on a stool every afternoon to do her homework. She said, “One day Lindsay was sitting there doing her homework and I was sitting right here on the couch watching her. Suddenly she dropped her pencil. Rather than getting down off her stool to look for her lost pencil, she just twisted around on the stool looking for it. From where I was sitting, I could see the pencil perfectly. It had rolled into the crack between the carpet and the breakfast bar. But from her vantage point, the pencil was no where to be found.”
The point is, God puts people in your life (like parents and youth leaders and spouses and friends) who have a different perspective than you do. You would be wise to listen to what they have to say and to consider that maybe they are seeing things that you can’t see. Rather than considering these people as nosy intruders in your life, think of them as God’s gift to you. By listening to wise counsel, you can save yourself a lot of trouble caused by your own mistakes and limited point of view.