I have two girls. With the exception of the toddler nudey phase, my girls are very modest. I have never had to tell either of them to go back in the house and change their clothes to something that covers more skin. Neither of them even wear shorts- but that’s a result of living in Latin American cities where NO ONE wears shorts except tourists and prostitutes.
This last week we hosted a team of Christian university students to work with our Costa Rican students. While hanging out on the big campus close to our house, a couple of boys took pictures of themselves with a couple of cheerleaders who were practicing on the soccer field. Of course there was good humor from both the boys and girls involved, nothing scandalous or truly inappropriate, just flirting. The pictures went on Facebook.
When my 6-year-old daughter saw the cheerleaders, she said, “Oh Mom, those are NOT good girls.” I blinked and pondered how to answer her. We don’t usually point out other people’s clothing or make judgements based on their appearance, so I wondered where my Kindergartener picked up the idea that those girls were bad girls.
I gently corrected her. I said, “We don’t know what they are really like, but they are not dressed modestly.”
“What does Modestly mean?” She asked.
I told her that a modest girl will cover her private parts- the ones covered by your swimsuit- and not show too much skin in other places too. (In our Youth ministry we had a “Say NO to Crack” policy- no butt cracks and no cleavage.) I thought it was pretty vague, and I was content with that. However, she piped up with another question, “Are those girls showing their BOOBS?” Well, almost but not quite. I’m pretty sure I have a headband that is bigger than parts of their uniform. I just chuckled at how black and white her little world is.
Those girls were finding their value in being sexual symbols– objects to satisfy the lusts of young men. That is sad. They don’t know their value. They don’t know what they are worth to God. My Kindergartener understands that… Now I just have to work on her judgemental streak!